Monday

In Which My Ovaries Quake For More Children




I'm done having babies. 3 was our number...are you done? Tell me in the comments if you are done Done DONE or are you just getting started, or are you undecided? (which means an oops baby, of course!)

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186 comments:

Samantha @ Mama Notes said...

we just have one, so we are certainly NOT done! We'll go until 3.. or 4.. or .... :)

Morgan said...

None yet, but I really want 4!

Leanne said...

We have 8! We're done, finished, complete, and happy where we are.

Maman Tattoo said...

We've just started! Baby #1 is 15 months old, and trying for a second.
My number is 4. But we'll see! maybe more!

Sarah Denley said...

We just have one so far, but I'd LOVE a big family (four or more). Our first is six months old and was conceived approx. two weeks after the we returned from our honeymoon....she is THE best surprise I've ever been given!

Your Frugal Friend, Niki said...

Depends which day you ask, really.

Today, done. I have one child (a son who is 4), but I have also had 5 miscarriages.

Some days I feel like I want more. Others I feel like if it is meant to be we will have another.

We'll see....

pendy said...

Two was our number and those two are 26 and 29, so you know I am done, done, DONE! One grandbaby so far...

pendy said...

Two was our number and those two are 26 and 29, so you know I am done, done, DONE! One grandbaby so far...

mrscrumley said...

I thought 4 was our number. Now I find DH is wavering after 2. It makes me a little sad, because I never saw myself the mom of a small family. I really hope we aren't done.

sabakose said...

We've got 3 .. age 3, 6 and 9. We both originally wanted just 2 (having both come from 2 kid families). Though we said, if the first 2 were the same gender, then we'd have a 3rd. Well, we got our boy, then girl .. but then I wanted 1 more - had to do LOTS of convincing ... I miscarried our 3rd .. and didn't necessarily want to try again, but then hubs decided he really wanted 3. :-) So, had child #3 another boy! :-) At times I'd really love a 4th, but hubs is really content with 3 and feels our family is more than complete! So, I'm okay with that. :-) Sorry for the novel-length comment! ha!

southerninspiration said...

I have three.....and I am now 50. done.... The next one I "have" will be a grandbaby, and I am ok with lots of those!!! :)

Suzanne

Rachel said...

We have no children, and right now we're hedging. Some days we want children...then we go to Wal*Mart or the mall and see them in action, and we change our mind!

Really, it doesn't matter either way until hubby finishes his accounting degree next May, possibly next August.

Sara said...

I had three and was DONE! Then God laughed at me and my silly control freak ways and told me, "No. Not Done!" And along came #4--the caboose. Best unfinished business I've ever had. We didn't even know that we needed her until we found out we were having her. Five years later and I still think that God is pretty smart. And hilarious. But believe me, I don't laugh at Him anymore. ;-)

becky said...

we are just getting started. Baby number on is 19 months and we are praying about when to have the second.

Henley on the Horn said...

We have 5, and I'm not sure we're finished!! I just love a big family.

Miss E said...

So funny, we just had this conversation last night! We're done and not done at the same time. We don't want to close the door yet, but I'm not getting any younger as each day passes either!

brudcrew said...

We have 2 boys and two girls: 9, 7, 4½, and 2. As hubby says,"Two and two and we're through!"

The Rudy Family said...

She is precious. My husband is done I am not so sure. I hadn't considered the oops factor problem is I have an IUD so I can't lie about it hehe! Love your blog by the way!
Brandie

3LittleByrds said...

I always wanted 4 but after we had #1 and #2 dh was ok with just the two but with convincing we went for #3 and miscarried then tried again and had our baby who will be a year old the 16th. Dh is done but I still want my #4. Guess we'll see.

Denise said...

We were done at 4, but God had other plans. After #5 was born with IUD still attached to the placenta we decided to leave it up to God.

We have 6 now & I would LOVE a 7th, if God decides to bless us again.

Wifeof1Momof4 said...

We have 3 sons and we are done. I think ... well, we .. I really want a daughter .. so we are looking into adoption, but are waiting because I don't want to "replace" my daughter who passed away and sometimes it seems as if that is what I trying to do.

As my youngest son gets closer to 3 and not as easy to hold and holding grown man conversations ... it does make me want another "baby" though ... :)

Jennifer said...

I said most vehemently after #2 was born that I was DONE. God laughed. Now I have 4 ages 13, 10, almost 6, and 4. My hubby would love more; he's a baby man. We have talked about adoption, but selfish old me is happy to not have diapers in my life anymore.

Sallie said...

We have 4 living and several in heaven. I thought I was done and had tubes tied because losses were just too tumultuous. God changed our hearts but we aren't doing reversals or anything. He told us to trust Him. That means if he heals and blesses great, if not, then that's great, too. We're ok with trusting Him for healing as well as creating!!

God bless,
Sallie
http://www.mikeandsallie.com/sallie

Nicole said...

Same here...3 was the magic number. I turned in my card at the time of my last one's birth. Though if hubs had anything to do with it, we'd have 6 more. I always tell him he can have as many more children as he wants. With his next wife.

BentoForKidlet said...

Right now I will say that I am done! I have a wonderful son and he is a blessing.

But should I ever find the right man and get married, I may reconsider that. Anything is possible :D

Team Pipkin said...

tubes are tied! we are sooo DONE! 3 is our number their ages are 17, 14 & 4 (& the 4yr old was the only one planned...LOL)

Lolli said...

We have five and we are done. Strangely enough, I have a discussion going on in my blogfrog community about this very topic! :)

Brandette L said...

We are just beginning! We are eagerly awaiting our first through adoption, he is due early Dec. We will then proceed for a second and if money and sanity prevails, a third. I always wanted 4, but when fertility issues struck, we had to revise the plan according to God's will. We now pray each and every day that this precious baby boy is delivered healthy and makes his grand debut into our lives in Dec. We are very excited!

Laura P said...

We just have the one so far (2 1/2) but definitely want more.

Hubby wants 2 kids, I want 3. So we will have either one or two more. LOL Now if my body would just cooperate..

Nancy M. said...

I have two and decided I was done, now I wish I could have more, well sometimes I wish that, lol! Depends on the day.

becca said...

ha on the undecided oops baby. We have that system down pat. Originally, we wanted 2 close in age (less than 2 years apart), wait 3 years, have two more close in age. The one and only time we 'tried' we got #1. 16 months later we got #2 (I never had a period), 19 months after that, we had #3 (were trying NOT to get pregnant). We didn't really think we were done after #3, but circumstances (and no insurance for a while) changed and we thought we were done. We said we were done. But I've never been comfortable with any type of BC that really works. So, there was always room for an "oops." We had #4 about 5.5 yrs after #3 and then again, thought we were done... but the same convictions about BC are in place... so here comes #5 on Tuesday!
If you would have asked me in high school how many kids I wanted... I would have said 5.

Becca @ Our Crazy Boys said...

We have two. Two boys. If I had one more, we would be outnumbered, and that just can't happen. So, for us, 2 is a perfect number.

Every once in a while, I do crave another little guy. But then my youngest does something crazy, and I remember how nice it is to just have two. :-)

Julie said...

We were undecided at 2 girls, but the decision was made for us...girl #3 arrived less than a year after girl #2! (I do not recommend this, although I can't imagine life without any of them at this point.) We are DEFINITELY done now. Husband made sure of it before #3 was born. Ha!

Sarah Panagos said...

After having my first son, I quickly fell pregnant again with my second son. They are only 13 months a part. We sort of put a hold on when the next child would come. Seven years later our little girl came. We are so blessed to have our three children. It's been seven years since our daughter was born, so I would say we are done!

Jeni said...

What a complicated question!! We have 2, a 3yo girl and a 4mo boy. So many people have commented, "A girl and a boy! Perfect! Now you can be done!"

I really don't feel like our family is complete. Ideally, I'd like one more of each. We have very complicated & difficult pregnancies, though, so I don't know. We would love to adopt, but I don't know how we can afford it on one paycheck with roughly a zillion dollars of student loan debt.

How's that for a non-answer?

Mindy May said...

I only have one child but my boyfriend and I are seriously talking marriage and future children. I would love 3 more. I am not done!

Heather said...

We are undecided. We have one - 14 months old. She is amazing in every way except sleeping. I am possibly pregnant with #2 and we'll just keep going until the Lord stops us! =)

Emily Ann said...

We're just getting started. Our first is due next month. We hope God will bless us with at least four.

Rachelle said...

WOW, My husband and I have been having this conversation for the past month or so. 2 years ago we had this conversation and got pregnant with our youngest :) So I'm going through baby fever that's for sure.

He's done. DONE DONE DONE so he says. Me, I don't know- right now I'd love another, but he works out of town during the week & I'm not cut out for a 4 yr old, 2 year old and a newborn that's for sure.

But oh some nights I just want to cuddle with a teeny tiny little one!

Rachelle

Dining Table Teacher said...

My number was 4. His was 2. We settled on 3. He gave me a vasectomy for Mother's Day a few years ago.

Lora said...

Well, we have 2: a boy and a girl. I so want to have another, but I don't know if its going to happen. I had a miscarriage at 36 and now I'm 38...I already have difficult pregnancies w/out the *older age risk* at play. Plus a year and a half ago, my husband lost his regular job and has been self-employed since. I have no idea how we could even begin to afford a new baby:) So we are currently trying to prevent pregnancy~which makes me mad-ha! But God is in control and I trust Him.

JessW said...

One and done!
I have a 4 year old son and am so content with just one. But after reading through all of the other comments, I feel like a loner here! All of you brave ladies with large families! :)

Jackie said...

We have just started...had our precious little Peanut a year ago. Two is my number, but I am very open to three, which is my husbands. We will see what God has in store for us.

Kristine said...

DH says we're completely done. I'm not so sure. No more biological children (I don't think, at least - LOL). Maybe adoption in a few years. After 6, what's a few more? LOL

WorkingMom said...

Done, Done, DONE! My factory is closed (or there is a potential malpractice suit in my future)!

We have three at home. The Oldest and the Middle Child were normal pregnancies, four years apart. Four years later, our Lost Boy (stillborn at 28 weeks), then a year later, our Little One (lost at 10 weeks). Three years, 4 IUIs that all failed, and finally acceptance that two would be our number. And then the surprise of the Baby, our miracle.

Trust me, I don't have the strength or the ability to go through any more.

Erica said...

Our pre-decided number was 2 or 3. We have two, a 4yo and an almost 2yo. I'm currently undecided. Some days I feel like our family is awesome and we don't need to add a thing (a person?). Other days (like today) I feel like I'd love to get pregnant again. So, I'm undecided.

KK said...

Single at 37 but I pray for babies...and a husband of course. I haven't quite given up yet!

rhilborn said...

We are not even close to finished! We have one 10 month old son and we would love to have 5+ kids. I am one of 5 and I would love to share that positive experience with my children. Of course, God knows the perfect number & timing of children for us!

Mom 4 Kids said...

We have 4 kids ages 10 - 7 - 6 and 3, 3 via adoption. We are done because there is barely enough of us to go around as it is. One on one time, bedtime routines, homework, learning disabilities, autism spectrum disorder, toddlerhooditis, I am a 5th grader so I am smarter than everyone syndrome, etc.

Our hearts and our hands are full and happy! :-) D.O.N.E. done.

fathersjourney-chris said...

Two was our number, but so far we're up to six! We finally figured out what kept causing that new child mystery every couple years and did something about, but we still got number 6 lol. Now that I have them I couldn't imagine living without any one of them.

Janis said...

If you had asked me 2 years ago I would have said the magic number was at least 2, maybe 3. But now sadly, it will only be one. Due to my son's Special Needs and a rare genetic syndrome, I am DONE WAAAAAAY before I wanted to be.

Monica said...

Just found out yesterday that we're expecting number 4. Before that I thought our number was 4, but I looked at my husband and said, "I don't want this to be our last...how sad!" So we'll see...

Cheri-Beri said...

Two and done, done, DONE! They're 14 and 11 and we're done. Hubby got the snip snip when the youngest was 5 months.

Did I mention we're done?

Sam said...

We have 3; 4, 2, and almost 7 months. Hubs says we're done at 3, I would like 1 more...so we'll see.

Bombtastic Belle said...

We don't have any...yet. My husband has been begging for a year now for us to try, but I can't seem to just say "ok". *lol* After 5.5 years of marriage I'm still not done being selfish on my time with him. *lol*

jsupunkprincess said...

We have one. I am done but my husband thinks otherwise. He's not the one that has to have them.

TanuvasaCasa said...

6 was always our number. We are up to 5 and for some reason, most days I feel like we're done. Of course, my little one is only 8 months old so there's still plenty of time to change my mind!

I've always felt the strong urge to foster children, but I promised myself that any kids I would take in had to be younger than my youngest. Because of that, my fostering dreams keep getting pushed back more and more with each child I have.

Zach and Beth said...

Hmm...good question. It depends on the day. We always said we wanted 4 children. 2 biological, 2 adopted. Well, we struggled for 3 years to get pregnant, started the adoption process and said if we got pregnant at that point, we were turning back b/c GOD led us to adoption at that time. 2 months later, I find out I'm pregnant.

Our kids are 6 months apart and they are SUCH good friends and I just don't know if I want to add more to our family any more. Some days I would love more, other days...notsomuch. Though, I must admit, the days I DO want more are more frequent now. Let me get my 2 out of diapers first though.

se7en said...

hehe! I was having none... I was having a career!!! Then I was wooed off my feet and we decided at the get go that we would have se7en... I meant se7en my husband meant five plus two adults makes se7en... When we got to five... he decided one or two more would be, well, fine!!! So we had our #7 and as she was born we looked at each other and knew there would be a #8... #8 was born ten days ago... and lets just say #9 is not out of the question!!! I am not getting any younger and the question is: if my family can stand that last month of pregnancy again - it is a tough, tough month for all of us!!!

Kristen@nosmallthing said...

I can see how that video would make your ovaries quake! She's precious.

We are done. My number was four. We have four. I am so happy with our family now. I am done DONE.

Every now and then I get a tiny little twinge of "I wish I could be pregnant again" but it doesn't last long.

The Real Me! said...

With my 3rd child weighing in at 11 lbs 2.5oz. and being so strong as to kick my spine out of whack and resulting in me not being able to walk for 3 days WHILE pregnant and then 2 months of Chiropractic help after birth we decided that we are done. My children have only gotten bigger and stronger with each pregnancy and I'm not getting any younger. It was a hard decision and one I'm sure we should have left up to the Lord but alas, we are done.
Blessings,
Kim

amanda said...

I wanted 5. Technically I got 5, but #4 was a mid-term death. And #5 nearly killed me during delivery. It really wouldn't have been bright to have another after him, but in the middle of his delivery the choice was taken from me anyway so now I'm DONE. Hey, 2 girls, 2 boys, within 10 years, can't really ask for much more. :)

Abbie said...

Our number is 2. I always said I wanted to have my children by the time I was 30 and I made it! Plus I don't really enjoy being pregnant. Maybe if we had gotten married a few years earlier we would have had another. But 2 is right for our family.

Southern Gal said...

We stuggled with infertility for four years. The Lord blessed us with our daughter, then 2 /12 years later our son was born. We thought we were on a roll. But it was 10 years between our second and our third son. I wanted another right away so my youngest would have someone to play with, but it didn't happen. Our magic number would have been five. God's magic number was three! And now we're going to be grandparents!!! Can't wait to see what that number will end up being.

Julie said...

One. Our number is one. I long for more. I know with God all things are possible, but I also know not all things are likely.

Kim said...

We have 2, a boy 3 and a girl 15 months. They are both wonderful but I am done, DONE,DONE, Factory is closed.
We have both only ever wanted 2 so it is not an issue. I don't know how you can cope with more than 2 anyway.

Bailey's Leaf said...

God's plan for us stopped at one stillbirth and one adoption. We had plans for two and, well, we had two. Just not the way we thought.

Leigh said...

done after 2. Our family feels complete! The Lord would have to do some major works to change our hearts if He wanted something different for us!

Queen Mommy said...

I've always wanted 3-4, and my husband has only wanted 2 but was willing to compromise at 3. When our first baby was 18 months, I found out I was pregnant again........with TWINS. I love having twins, even though the pregnancy and everything afterward was extremely complicated (one baby spent her first 6 months in the hospital). For a few years after they were born, I was fine with our family the way it was, but............I always knew I would want one more. And, yes, my uterus has been quaking for another baby lately. It has been for a good year or two (the twins will be 6 in a couple of months). As of right now, our stance is to pray that God will lead us both to the same page. So, that's where we are on that subject.

Jennifer said...

I'm one of the ones that is just getting started. I am pregnant with number seven. :)

I am so surprised that every single comment was about how they were going to decided how many children they would have. Shocking. Is God not the open and closer of the womb? Is He not the ONE who gives life?

IMHO, "deciding" how many children to have is not believing and trusting in God. He told us to be fruitful and multiply. So, we do it.

I am abundantly blessed (more than I can ask or think!)by having "so many" children. Your little video is one small snapshot of the joys of motherhood. Why cut that off before God is done blessing you?

You asked. :)

Just me said...

Done done DONE. We have two. I always said I wanted a big family, but after a scary birth with our second, and two infants who didn't learn to sleep for more than 2 hours at a time until well after their first birthdays, I'm done. My husband thinks he might not be done. But I am done. No more pregnancies, no more infants. I still want a big family, but since you have to have infants before you have big kids, I guess we're done. :)

Amy @ Finer Things said...

We have three, and after three LONG YEARS of infertility, we know we should just be thankful for the miracles that are our children. And we are. But we want more... and we've been trying... but it's not happening...

everyday mom of one said...

We have 1 hence my blogs name, I know I will not need to change my blog name, I had a hard labor and then a very very hard 4 months after labor. One is our number I always thought we would have 2 but after we had our gorgeous son we both started thinking that 1 is enough for us. Sometimes I feel like others judge us for our decision but we know what is best for our family at this time

Tina said...

I was done at 2, but God had other ideas and #3 came around on April Fool's Day of last year.

I've had the goods removed, so if I get pregnant again, I'm going to be on the news.

vintage girl at heart said...

We have four!! Ages 25 24 14 and 10 and one sweet grandbaby that is almost 8 months. I said no more after number one but then had number two. Waited years and had three and then four was a surprise!!! I feel very Blessed!!!
Love the video!!

TheRixonFive said...

THREE!!!! DONE!!!!!!!! Adorable little girl, you have!

Lorie said...

We were undecided & now we have an "oops" baby on the way. But it's alright, we're very excited to welcome baby #3 (a 2nd boy) in Feb. But this baby & my baby girl will be 15m apart. Oops! ;-) And I THINK we're done.

Blondie said...

We thought we were done with one, primarily because of fertility issues. We had finally come to terms with that when HELLO - we were miraculously pregnant with son #2! My boys are almost 7 1/2 years apart. I often say to the second one, "Who knew we needed you as much as we do?" To which my older son answers, "God knew!"

I often joke that God only gave me two eggs and I have now used them both. Two is the perfect number FOR US.

Racheal said...

We have one son, he is 3. If you ask me, I'm not done. Ask my husband and he says we are. It makes me sad, I always wanted more than one. So time will only tell, but it looks like I will only have the one.

Tara said...

I'm number 2 of 5. My husband is number 1 of 1. When we got married we knew we wanted 3-4 kiddos. When I was pregnant with number 3 I thought to myself, I can do this one more time. When I was pregnant with number 4 I though to myself, this is the last one. I got my tubes tied at that c-section (all 4 were sections, so we pretty much had to be done anyway).

Adoption is something we're open to, but not until the littlest one is older. So, we're done producing new children, but are open to adopting another one later!

jen said...

we have 2, and are VERY undecided on another. it's a hot topic around here ;)

Michelle said...

We have one and we're not ruling out one more if it happens, but we would be ok if it doesn't.

Jamie said...

Weeelll, originally we thought four was our number, but... #4 is now 7 months old, and I know I can't be done! Hubby even said to me that he could see us being a family with a lot more kids and I was shocked (but excited, too)!
Having c-sections, though, I just don't know. One doctor has already told me that I should be done, but I'll be getting a second opinion. We're praying and trusting God for baby #5... eventually.
Thanks for your blog! It always makes my day and inspires me with mine.

jamie@thismama's heart.blogspot.com

Jendeis said...

As a couple struggling with the devastating diagnosis of infertility, we don't know how many children G-D has in store for us. We're praying that the treatment we just had this weekend is our lucky cycle for our first child.

kpmattingly said...

Our number was 3 or 4. But we have 2 and we are DONE! I don't think I can handle having more.

rachelizabeth said...

We are three and done. Last year, I made it permanent and a few weeks ago had a hysterectomy. I knew I was done before then, but my medical issues finalized it.

I do have a soft spot in my heart for kids that need foster/adoptive homes. Now is not the time, but if God leads us that way in the future, we are definitely open to it.

Brenda Torres said...

We have been trying for 6 years and are finally finalizing the adoption of our foster daughter (4 years old) in 2 weeks AND God blessed us with a miracle pregnancy. Due at the end of January. We want 6 kids, but we have to see how it all works out because as we have learned so well over the last 6 years . . . it is out of our control. God knows our heart's desire.

Audra said...

What a sweet video!

We're just getting started. My son just had his first birthday and two days before, we learned we're pregnant again!

We waited 8 years to have our first and decided for the next few years to just see what God has for our family. It's exciting!

Sheila said...

We have two (12 & 9), and we are done (unless God decides otherwise). I don't want any more, but I'm so looking forward to grandchildren. I think that will be even better! :)

christa elyce said...

mother of 2! now a 4 year old girl and 10 month old boy!

I dont know if its because i have one of each that i just feel done or because i'm not married (newly divorced) that i don't feel that there are anymore children in my future quite yet.

my eldest, Winter, says she wants "when i have a baby sister"...she called the last one...she knew Brighton was going to be a boy.

My world is kinda of upside down now...because when i was married i felt that a 3rd one was still in the playbook...but...now..life is different.

thanks for the post. got me thinking. i do need to think about things like this...it will help me to keep a eye out for mr. right!

and thanks again for all your blogger tips.
www.jemappelles-christa.com

Beth said...

HAHAHA! Our number was four. But five, six, and seven changed that! I've learned NOT to say this is definitely our last. I now have multiple cabooses in our train.

Sandy Toes said...

I had 3...then an emergency hystrectomy..so I am done. The next stage is just as fun and fulfilling then the first!

sandy toe

sclangs said...

No more for us, but I couldn't be happier with the ones that I have. We have 3 - 10yr old girl, 7 yr old girl and 4 yr old boy. We were done after 3 no matter what we got....we questioned our sanity while I was already pregant with #3. I had a tubal while I was open on the table with #3 to prevent anymore.

Lisa Anne said...

I have a 9 yr old son. I'm not sure If I'm done, I'm single so I might change my mind when I'm married.

Carrie said...

You know, babies grow so fast and I think God put into the heart of a mom a desire to hold and love babies...now, as I am nearing the end of my child bearing years, I am grieving that I did not see the end at the beginning...when we had 3 children 3 and under, and I never thought I would be able to catch up on laundry or be able to go anywhere without having to buckle all three of them in the car, I wish that I could have seen that there would be a time when I would not have any more children...We have five children and I wish we had more...but God is the opener and closer of wombs...if it is in His will to give us more children, we will welcome them with great joy. If He does not give anymore, we will trust in His plan. Another thing we thought, was that since we had the first three so close together, it would always be that way...not so...two more came after four year intervals each and if we had another, it would be four years as well...
Children are a GREAT BLESSING...they enrich life so greatly.

C~

Christie O. said...

So CUTE!!! wxy and v. hahahahaha!
i love babysinging i love it i love it i love it!

oh, i don't know if i'm done yet. i guess i'm leaving myself open, though the thought of gaining all the babyweight back that i just took a year and a half to lose makes my stomach hurt. and your post title CRACKS ME UP PS!

Giltine said...

We are just beginning to think about trying, so we are far from over. I want at least 3. I'll keep trying for at least three, then we'll see how many my body (and sanity) can handle! I can't wait!

jennschmerer said...

We have three boys, ages 7, 5 and 3 (almost exactly 2 years apart each!). It would be 4, but we lost him at 12 weeks almost a year and half ago. It's amazing when we have our plan and our Father takes us by the hand and gently shows us His. I know that for now, our family is complete. We will just keep listening to His will and someday there may be another one to add. Our 3rd was an oops baby (I was waiting for my period to start so I could have an IUD put in- we wanted another few year gap between #2 and #3). He is the best accident that ever happened to our family! I cannot imagine it without him. What a blessing these children are!

ryleeandnoahsmom said...

We currently have three children, ages 7, 4, and 17 months. We are in the process of becoming foster parents and would love to adopt a sibling group through the foster care system. We have been approved to care for 3 additional children. However, I'm definitely NOT done with having more biologically as well. Hoping for one or 2 more, at least. Total, we may end up with as many as 8 kids, and I'm totally great with that! There are worse things in life than driving a dorky 12 passenger vans!

Michelle said...

What a cutie singing her ABC's!

Right now I have 3 kids. I only met my youngest two when they were 3 and 5 years old so I have only got to do the pregnant, baby, toddler phase once and boy do I miss it!

I know for sure I want another baby. Hubby would pass if I said so. We will have another baby but not for a few more years when we are more financially stable and can pay down some of our debt.

After our 4th child hubby is ready to have the big V. I am hesitant to do anything permenant so quickly. 3 kids is already chaos, 4 has to be madness, and 5 well who knows. All good marriages have compromise. I will have to settle on 1 more baby and be happy. By the time it happens my older three will be so much older it will be like having only one child who needs me all the time. Cake, right?

Jane said...

After 4 c-sections, plus a hernia with the 4th, plus another abdominal surgery to remove adhesions from the c-sections, I am done, done, DONE. I did have a tubal and I'm good with that. Of couse, my oldest is 18 and has been a joy to raise, and my "baby" is now almost 7 (I threatened to super glue his front tooth back in because now he really doesn't look like a baby either) ... starting again would be a real challenge, but God has a plan for my life and I'm just here to do His Will.

Sharon said...

When we got married dh wanted 8 and I wanted 6. That number changed after we started having kids. We have 4 now. It took a lot of effort to get those 4 here (I was pregnant 10 times!) and since I now have a chronic illness and am on medications that's not recommended for those who are pregnant or planning to become pregnant, we are done. We haven't done anything permanent yet to insure that we are done, but we really feel like our family is complete! :-)

~ Dawn ~ said...

After watching that video, I want 1 more. LOL!! Actually we wanted 3 but knew we couldn't afford just 1 more, and with the awful births I had, I didn't want to go through it again. So we settle on 2, a girl and boy. The hubby got the "V", so there is really no more. Kinda makes me sad but then again, I am grateful for what we have been blessed with.

Chick Hatchers said...

We have 3 at My Child's View, ages 3, 6, and 9. All girls. One is a real handful and my 3 year old is really going through a stubborn phase. I finally resolved that we most likely done because I am at my wit's end most of the time and I don't know if we could fit any more in our house. But I really wonder if another one may be in our future in the next few years. We'll just have to wait and see.

I'd much rather consider children a "surprise", though, instead of "oops." :)

mamajil said...

We have 10, and our oldest and his wife are expecting in Dec. so I will have my first grand baby....so I should be done but seriously if God so chose to bless us one more time...I would be elated!!! (My husband would tell ya if we can order a set of twin boys he would be the first one filling out the "blue request forms" ~ we have 7 girls and 3 boys so a couple of boys would be awesome) but really we are very blessed and pleased with what the Lord has done in our family thus far!!

Jenileigh said...

I've battled secondary infertility all of my life. I do have three daughters and there are 5 1/2 years between each of them-only because it didn't happen sooner. I'm 38 now and I still can't not *try*. I think I'll always want another one even if it never happens.

My youngest is now 8, somewhere around that 5 1/2 year mark I just KNEW I'd be pregnant again. When it didn't happen, I was devasted...and that is an understatement.

I've come to accept that the Lord is over my womb, I've stepped out of the way and said, "Your will and not my own Lord." I'm thankful to be there. :)

I'll never stop hoping.

nicole said...

We're expecting #6. We surrendered our fertility to God, maybe more than we realized. We don't put a number on family size, we simply take it one child (so far) at a time.

mamaK said...

My son--he's two and a half--loved this video! He clapped and stomped his feet and then shouted Yea! Hurray! When she was finished! So fun! We had to watch it over and over!
We are just in the middle and will probably go to three cuz then we can still fit in a car!!! =)
Thanks for the fun!

Megan said...

We are done, done. We have two beautiful teenagers...13 1/2 and 12, boy and girl...born 18 months apart. I knew I was done by the time the younger was 3 or so. Our family is just how I imagined it!

MonkeMama said...

We had 3 and I felt our family was most definitely complete. Then wham-o, along came the baby. We now have 4, ages 13, 10, 9 and 1! Sometimes my husband and I talk about the big age gap and maybe our youngest needs a sibling close in age. But honestly, my 4th was my only c-section and I'm scared of being pregnant after that, so that makes me think we are DONE!

Arya said...

We have 3 - I thought we were done and then hubby wanted another, now I am thinking 4 is good...my friend on the other hand says 5 is a great number...only way 5 will happen for us is if we get twins because after baby #4 hits I am going to have my tubes tied.

adorkable::: said...

My uterus cries out for babies some days, but right now my husband and I (of 1.5 years) are just trying to soak in every moment of this stage in our lives. We are hoping for 3 children one day...maybe trying next year. :)

Robin said...

So sweet!!! 3 was our number - 3 boys. I'm hoping for a lot of granddaughters in the future!

Michelle said...

Wanting to add a 4th child to our family I am suprised at how many other comments have or want 4 or 5 or more children. I know very few families with 4 children or more and people have told me I am crazy for wanting more. It seems like most of my children's classmates have 1 brother or sister (2 children total), a few families have 3 and a few have one child but very few families have more than 3. Guess I don't have to fit societies norms just do what is right for me and my family and of course follow God's plan for our life.

JenT said...

We decided that we wouldn't pick a number. We let God decide when and how many He chooses to bless us with. So far we have 9 here and 2 in Heaven. While we don't know if we are "done" or not, we would welcome any more God sends us.

The Eclectic Dabbler said...

I come from a family with 3 kids; my hubby comes from a family with 4 kids. When we got married, I was 27, and we discussed having 4 children but waiting till Hubby finished more schooling.
Growing up I thought I would choose: either career or family. If I chose family, I would like 6 kids--I'm the 'all or nothing' type.
As life unfolded . . . after a career in the business world (I am a CPA--worked as an auditor at Ernst & Young before kids), my first child was born when I was 31. It took us a year of trying to get pregnant, so I thought 'at this rate I will be happy with four!'
Well, #2 was conceived when my daughter was 10 months old--we weren't really trying! And then he was born premature at 32 weeks. Between the bedrest & NICU, I started thinking 'maybe we'll wait a while before the next one and try for just one more and see how it goes. . . ' Since I wasn't strictly adhering to the natural method ;-) you can guess what happened:
#1 is almost 3. #2 is 16 months old. And #3 is due in March. I'm hoping we'll make it that far! since I'm already experiencing contractions at 20 weeks. If all goes well, maybe we'll have four . . . or five! . . . or who knows?
If anything, my story shows: things don't always go according to the "Plan."
I LOVE my kids!!! :-)

Amy said...

God willing, we are not finished. We have 3 girls, ages 5, 3.5, and 1. I would like to have 2 or 3 more children (boys or girls, we don't care!).

Loved that video!

r- m val said...

we currently have none. hubs isn't quite on board with the baby thing yet. we've both agreed two is our number once we get there though. i'm from a family of three girls and there was always an odd man out of anything, so no odd numbers for us. and four just sounds like a LOT of kids. :) so two it is.

r- m val said...

we currently have none. hubs isn't quite on board with the baby thing yet. we've both agreed two is our number once we get there though. i'm from a family of three girls and there was always an odd man out of anything, so no odd numbers for us. and four just sounds like a LOT of kids. :) so two it is.

kristinevans said...

Just getting started - first one due in 6 weeks!

Would love lots! But got started late...waiting on the right man to marry and so glad I did.

Maybe two biological, then adoption hopefully...number could way up!

Kimberly said...

Third time is a charm..... It got us to our magical number. We have called it done at 3! Ages 6, nearly 4, and 1....they now outnumber us! Our oldest swears that I will have another when she is 16! She said the 8 ball told her that info! YIKES!

Dana said...

We said we only wanted 5. We had the 5th & dh said we are done. But God had other plans & gave us 5 MORE! So, we don't say if we are done or not, God knows, but the youngest is 3 & we have never gone that long w/o another coming. I'm glad that God didn't let us stop @ 5.

imadramamama said...

With a 6 year old boy and a 4 year old girl, we are so done. We firmly believe that God gave a parent two hands for a reason. And as a friend joked, there isn't a 3rd sex so we're good to go!

Jill @ Live Laugh Blog said...

We have two girls... ages 4 & 2. I think we're done. My husband is happy with what the Lord has blessed us with. I would be happy with more... No one has had any surgeries so maybe the Lord will work on my husbands heart! (or mine!)

Also - my 4 year old says your daughter "is a great alphabet girl!"

Allie said...

We are just getting started. I'm two months pregnant with number 1 (due in May). We always said 2, but we feel the Lord may be leading us to be fruitful vines. But we will see what He places on our hearts.

Sandy said...

Done. Completely done. No turning back - Done!

LOL - are you taking a poll on this? :)

xo

Renee said...

We have one, and would like to have four...but we've been trying for almost a year and two miscarriages later, we're wondering if we'll ever even get another...

Cindy said...

6 was our number and we are done. Now I have 2 kid-in-laws....I hope soon to have some grandbabies (I'm only 42, but I'm ready!)

Kimm at Reinvented said...

We have four and are DONE DONE DONE. (#4 was a "surprise") :)

Leslee said...

We are trying to get started...we've been trying for 4 years and 2 months with out any luck. Hopefully God will bless us soon with our miracle. :)

everydayMOM said...

My husband said we were done at 3. My body said we were done. At 40, I had made it through three c-sections and didn't think I could handle another. But something in my heart kept telling me that someone was missing from our family.

And despite our efforts at being done, we did get a surprise. No. 4 will be born in seven weeks.

Here's the whole story, if you are interested:
http://everydaymomlife.blogspot.com/2009/06/if-you-read-nothing-else-you-might-want.html

Oh, yeah... it's also the story of how I will NEVER, EVER home school. Unless, I guess, I get pregnant by surprise at age 40, and then it makes perfect sense to start home schooling three children. Right?

Isabella said...

I loved the video. Kids say the cutest & funnies things don't they.

Thanks for sharing,
Isabella

UnfinishedMom said...

We are DONE! Had 2, a boy a girl. I was 38 when the last was born. Decided pretty quickly I didn't want to be pregnant at 40.

Sheila said...

This is actually a question close to my heart!

Baby #1 was a miscarriage. Baby #2 is a perfectly healthy, wonderful 14-year-old girl. Baby #3 died when he was a month old. I miss him. Baby #4 is a perfectly healthy 12-year-old girl. So I have two babies in heaven, and two daughters on earth.

After having Katie, my last one, I was sure I was done. I was 27, I'd already had one baby die, I had lived through a miscarriage, and Katie was a horrible pregnancy. They told me she would die, too, but they were wrong. They misread the ultrasound.

But I was so spooked I was sure I could never go through that again. We'd just adopt, or foster. Everything would be hunky dorey. So when I was 28, my husband got snipped.

Then something happened. I hit 34 and I realized I'd love to have another baby. I wasn't scared anymore. But it was too late, and my husband didn't want to go for the reversal.

I still regret the babies I did not have.

The motto? Never say you're done. You really don't know. Your attitude could change. Circumstances could change. Just give it time. Kids are a blessing, even if they come with heartache or a lot of work! I love my girls with all my heart, and I'm very happy with our family. But I still sometimes wonder what could have been...

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VanderbiltWife said...

We have one nearly one-year-old. We've always talked about having 4. As much as I love little tiny babies, I was ready to have another one when Libbie was about 6 months old, I am afraid we'll have 10! Ha! Our real saying has been 2 and then we'll see.

11arrows said...

Have totally left that decision up to God! I trust Him with everything including the size of my family! Not always easy, but oh so worth it! So far, 11 is the count on earth and 3 in heaven!

Blessings to you and your family!

Cheryl said...

Hubby and I decided not to have any more for now. I'm hoping for an oops baby :) If we're meant to have more God is strong enough to negate any of our preventative measures.

We're in a place where we feel God is preparing us for something, but we don't know what. We feel led to move but don't know where. We want more kids but don't feel now is the time.

So we're finishing upgrades on our house and putting it on the market with no idea of where to move or what comes next. We're taking a leap of faith and trusting God will illuminate our path at each step.

Phoebe @ Cents to Get Debt Free said...

We orginally wanted 4 children, then after our 3rd we were done. Now, we are fully convinced that we want another and then I will have to be done. I've had 3 C-sections, my doctor cleared me for #4, but I don't think he'll do #5. :( I'm saddened that that is all I can have. Would love to have a big family!

Grannyann said...

Did I miss the section for granny's who aren't entering this conversation?

Stephanie said...

Look at all the comments!!! My favorite...

w - x - y = and me. So cute.

We are done. I had to be done. Health issues with my last baby brought her early and so 5 is all God has for us. And that is enough.

Jenn @ Beautiful Calling said...

Done, Not Done!

We have one heaven-baby, Chloe (2) and John (1). I would like more...3...4...+

DH is happy with two and is very sure He's done!

We'll see what the Lord has in store for us! LOL

The Park family said...

Wanted and agreed to have at least 5 when we first got married. Have 3 ages 10,8, & 6 and due to severe medical issues, my ovaries desire to have more but my body just cant. Makes me sad but God is good and has promised us as many as we want to adopt, that He would provide for every orphan we give a forever home to. No definative number on that one, just a willing heart and open home to how ever many God wants to bless us with!

Spring said...

We originally said "if we have 1, we'll have 4!" But after a very complicated #2 we thought we better be done- it had taken a village to run our household while I was on bedrest for 3 months. But God surprised us with #3 the month we had planned for a permanent fix. But lately, I have been ACHING for another one. But before #3 was even out, the Dr warned us about having another, as the risks for both baby and me are so great. So I snuggle my 1 yr old nephew for now. *sigh* My mom says you never get over it! :) After raising 4 herself, when she reached menopause she mourned not being able to have more babies, even though she had been happy to stop at 4.

The Taffs said...

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Andrea said...

I have two boys that were both extremely premature so I cannot biologically have anymore =(

I want a little girl desperately so in a few years we plan to adopt a little girl and she will complete our family.

The Martin Family said...

We are done. 2 is our number. I'm not a good pregnant person. I have also discovered that I don't so much like newborns...unless I can give them back. So unless I adopt a 6 month old...which is possible...I think we are done.

Jodee Leader said...

We have one boy and one girl, which is perfect for us. My husband was snipped so we are done!

Wanda said...

Oh....let me chime in.

Hubby really wanted to have a second baby. We did! Then, he was going to have a vasect. right after we paid our taxes.
Yea, I found out I was pregnant with #3....tax month!

God is so smart......He knows the perfect number!

I'm so thankful for my 3 amazing kids!
Oh....and we're DONE!!!!

Shannon said...

I was absolutely, positively done at 3. Which means, of course, that I have 4. (Best surprise I ever had, though!)

But yes, barring a biological miracle of Biblically epic proportions, I'm done.

Shannon said...

I was absolutely, positively done at 3. Which means, of course, that I have 4. (Best surprise I ever had, though!)

But yes, barring a biological miracle of Biblically epic proportions, I'm done.

Christy said...

I always thought i would have 8 - I grew up got married had 7 in 9 years, 3 years later had a precious baby who lived only 4 months, 2 years later we had a precious little girl - so 8 living, 1 who we know and love in heaven and 4 precious babies that I have lost because of miscarriage. So if you are counting I have 13! I am 43, doubtful I will have more - my baby is 4, but God is totally in charge - thankfully! (sorry so long)

Innocent Observer said...

When I was pregnant with my last we had three foster children and four bio's so we were expecting #8. Then we said goodbye to the foster children, and gave birth to #5. Now I'm pregnant with # 6 and I have NO IDEA where I stand. I want MORE!!! but I feel like this is the last pregnancy due to age. I wish we had been able to adopt, but we weren't and I don't think we can pursue that road again for a long time, if ever.

I look forward to someday being done, and knowing just what my family is going to look like. I wish I knew how to figure it out! Thanks for asking; sorry for the novel! :P

Hope said...

I have 3 and I'm done, although in a perfect world I would like another. Unfortunately life's far from perfect and my current circumstances have decided for me.

Megan said...

I want 4, but my husband only wants 2. He has middle child syndrome and he absolutely does NOT want a middle child. We will see!

aklivelovelearn said...

Cute! I wanted 3 or 4, had some miscarriages, I have two blessings. Love them bunches. Now that they are almost all grown up, I long for my future grandchildren to spoil rotten!

J said...

We have one. We used to say we wanted four but I don't think that will happen (on purpose at least) so maybe three is our number.

Kara@ Creations by Kara said...

We have four boys and are trying to adopt a little girl. Actually we would love twins!

FiddlersBride said...

What I wouldn't give to have ONE. There are some readers out there (seriously, I can't be the only one), whose heart breaks with today's post. Looking forward to your next DIY or craft project! : )

Beth said...

Whenever people ask me how many children we're going to have, I always say the same thing. "We'll know when we get there." As of now, we have a 3 year old boy and one coming in February. This could be it or there could be more in our future. I've always thought I'd be given what God knows I can handle. There were times when I thought I could only handle one and now I am so excited that we are about to have our second!

I'd like to ask for your prayers as we are entering a challenging time. I'm a SAHM and my husband's job will be ending next week. We aren't sure what lies ahead, but we are sure that God will be with us.

Julie said...

We have 2 and I am done. With this husband, anyway, because measures have been taken. =)

Hopefully we are done. But if by some miracle God sees fit to send us one more, I would HOPE HOPE HOPE for a girl. I'm perfectly content right now, though.

Jessica said...

We have one, he is 9 almost 10. We were married for 10 yrs before he came and I am fixing to turn 40. I wanted to have more than one but dh didn't. So to compensate I have been babysitting for others ever since son was a year old. I have helped many a mom and quite like giving them back. :) So unless God intervenes we are done.

algwhitaker said...

I had three boys and then a girl. My baby girl is going to be 9 this month. I'm done, I'll wait another ten years for grandchildren!

Tamara said...

I am DONE!!! I was planning just to have 2 and I wound up having an oops...so I have 3. Then I got divorced and remarried and wound up having a total of 5. We now have 3 grandchildren (courtesy of my husbands grown kids) sooooo, I am definitely DONE!! Am loving the grandchildren, though!

MyLinda said...

Done...hmm that is not really MY decision. I have birthed one and adopted one thru foster care so far. Now I'm feeling the pull to adopt again and have started working part time to save for a homestudy. But all that being said, it is not MY decision and whatever is in store babywise is ok with me!

Julianne said...

I have a 16 month old and a 2 month old. We want lots of kids...maybe 12????

Gina @ MoneywiseMoms said...

I have three, ages 6, 3 and 3. I'm not done, I feel I'm supposed to have more. Hubby disagrees. Sigh.

blessdtwice said...

I feel blessed to have my two. Horrible endometrosis has meant a hysterectomety at 36.

And yes, having fertility issues means that I am very much aware that there are those who ache to have just one...I have prayed for you...

allthingsjuice said...

I'm single with no children. At 37 it's getting a little late in the game for me to have kids, but I'm ok with that. God knows my heart and He will give me what is best. I'm a foster parent doing respite care now (meaning weekends or a very short stay). I know that I can take a full time foster child if I ever desire to be a full time parent. For now, the part time gig works great for me.

For those who are looking to have more children, I strongly recommend the foster care system. Many kids are available to adopt through foster care. Foster kids are the orphans of America.

Queen of the Gillards said...

Well I truly believe you know in your heart when you are done. I knew with my fifth that she was the baby. And after 11 years that hasn't changed.

Mindy Skains Barefoot Book Ambassador said...

the Lord blessed us with 2 amazing boys ( I was not supposed to have any )
A year ago I had to have a full hysterectomy, I would love more and even tried to persuade a gal from church that she needed a MUCH DESERVED BREAK FROM HER BABY. ( she didn't fall for it. )

SO I admire and love babies from a far.

Emily said...

Love the video! So stinkin' cute! We have 2, would like 2 more, but the ovaries are not cooperating. If we don't succeed in our quest for pregnancy within 3 more months, we're starting down the adoption road.

Tracey said...

Done/undecided. We have two (age 1 and 3,) but we are "advanced in years" so not sure if we will keep going for a few more.

Mommy Words said...

Prego with my 3rd and I agreed to stop here but man have I always wanted 4. Hubby is getting a vasectomy which I have heard is not 100%. I have told him this. I have agreed that if one slips through I too will be fixed if we have 4. Seems fair!

Kristi said...

wow - how neat to read everyone's responses!

We have 2, and dh and I still waver about more. Used to say 4, now really enjoy 2... praying for God's direction, and if there's an "oops" it's a gift of direction from Him!! :)

Buffie said...

We have 1 who is almost 2, but would love to have another. I think 2 is our number, but we will see.

Harmony said...

I have three boys so far, the youngest being 6. Every day I go back and forth about having one more. At this point, I'm letting God decide that, not doing anything to prevent a pregnancy. Luckily, God knows what is best and if I don't have another, I'm so happy with my three amazing boys!

Alexia said...

I'm not done! I've always wanted a big family (not quite as big as the Duggers though LOL).

Tiffany Harper said...

Adorable! Right now I have 3: 1 in heaven (lost at 13 weeks), 1 girl (3) and 1 boy (3 mos). So right now I am saying I am DONE! My husband says I get a little crazy while pregnant. heeee! But we are OPEN to what God does. We may have an ooops baby. lol!

ProlificMom said...

My number WAS 3. We HAVE 5 this includes "ok one more" and then the "bonus baby". We are DONE DONE DONE. Had my tubes tied immediately after #5 was born. Apparently I get pregnant very easily. I love them and can't live without them but at this point, some days I'm just clinging to the edge of reality. :-)

Carla said...

I don't think my last comment made it... right now our number is *9*.
I would like to say we are DONE... but I would also like to adopt from Uganda! So...

Rona's Home Page said...

We knew we were done when our son was born 17 years ago. When he turned two years old I had my tubes tied and never regretted it.
I truly love our family of three.

anapriscila said...

We are SO not done. We have one 5 month old baby girl. Hubby wants only 2, I want 4. We'll see.

Hahah... I like how you put it: an oops baby. I'm sure we're going to have one of those.

Jenna said...

We are done! We have 3 - a daughter who's almost 7, a 3 year old son, and a 9 month old son.

Lucy postpartumillness.com said...

I am forced to be done due to my health issues. Sometimes it makes me sad and other times it doesnt. I just always wanted a girl. I am very grateful for what I do have though.

Lucy

taralynn819 said...

Our first is due Easter Sunday (4/4/10). We both think 3 is a good number, we shall see!

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