tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post5389842607293911512..comments2023-11-28T04:49:21.046-06:00Comments on We Are THAT Family: Embracing the Strong-Will of My ChildKristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02608199440254905212noreply@blogger.comBlogger71125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-90016030451950685402009-11-25T09:35:49.654-06:002009-11-25T09:35:49.654-06:00Shane the Freight Train is 3.5 and man oh man is h...Shane the Freight Train is 3.5 and man oh man is he a pistol. The pendulum swings widely in both directions and he never seems to rest quietly in the middle. <br /><br />He is a passionate pursuer of justice though and is very protective of his siblings.<br /><br />We think he'll grow up to rule a small country, be a pastor or wind up in prison (joking!). He has too much exuberance and zeal to have a 'regular' job. :)*~*~* Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07224249961990268502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-77368211395966295292009-11-24T21:55:53.360-06:002009-11-24T21:55:53.360-06:00My 6 yr old is very strong willed but also very in...My 6 yr old is very strong willed but also very independent. She learned to dress herself, feed herself, read, etc at a young age and it's great letting her get ready for school all by herself. So her clothes don't always match and she REFUSES to change them for me. At least she did it herself.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12212683666151383453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-80861128639010156912009-11-22T02:47:18.627-06:002009-11-22T02:47:18.627-06:00Yes, that is my daughter.
I love her smile, her bu...Yes, that is my daughter.<br />I love her smile, her bubbly friendly personality, her kindness and most of all her imagination.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-62818122249744721232009-11-22T00:52:10.981-06:002009-11-22T00:52:10.981-06:00My brother was that strong willed child and now he...My brother was that strong willed child and now he is an incredible children's pastor. Hang in there!KKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10815049701010983875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-18250143368807965892009-11-21T21:02:32.618-06:002009-11-21T21:02:32.618-06:00Amen, amen. As a teacher, the thing I seem to str...Amen, amen. As a teacher, the thing I seem to struggle most with is wanting my children to behave....to not be "THAT child". My oldest is a typical pleaser, my middle one has special needs and always marched to the beat of his own drum for other reasons. We adopted my third, and I say always that she's the one that can make me laugh the quickest but also make me just as angry just as quickly. She is soooo stubborn and strong willed. She is THAT child in Target, at lunch, and so many other places.<br /><br />Thanks for the post. I try to remember with my youngest, that her spirit is what helped her survive in an orphanage. Survive she did. She is now blooming.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02202035183109298503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-35797280930205465712009-11-21T19:28:11.017-06:002009-11-21T19:28:11.017-06:00My daughter was the strong-willed toddler, too. N...My daughter was the strong-willed toddler, too. Now she's a wonderfully self-reliant 16 yr old. She works hard to accomplish whatever she sets her mind to. All you have to do is teach your daughter to use that strong will God gave her to do what HE wants her to do. (Sounds so simple, right?? LOL) <br /><br />We recently dropped off our girl for a college preview weekend where she knew exactly one person...and she had a BLAST! Met all kinds of people and participated in everything. Even became the leader of the group of kids attending the weekend thing...and she was the only 11th grader there...the rest were seniors.<br /><br />It'll take time, patience and prayer, but your child has that will because God wanted her to have it. Make it work for His glory! You'll be amazed at where it takes her.The Sourcehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01445281088837499229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-88197378793741945942009-11-21T17:32:24.834-06:002009-11-21T17:32:24.834-06:00My strong willed child is just like me and 9 years...My strong willed child is just like me and 9 years old now. He had early terrible twos, from 1 1/2- 2 1/2 and has calmed every year since. I don't want to squash his personality but to be successful in life children do have to learn to behave and be polite.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05424336265089036857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-28188119830123862752009-11-21T15:30:24.266-06:002009-11-21T15:30:24.266-06:00What a great post. My 5 year old sweet girl is re...What a great post. My 5 year old sweet girl is ready to take on the world! She has a strong will and personality that jsut flat wear me out! BUT, I know she will need that strength God gave her to live with the diabetes that she also has. <br />Signed up today and eagerly awaiting that newsletter!Wendy Nnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-48147769820567532322009-11-21T12:50:20.365-06:002009-11-21T12:50:20.365-06:00THEY ARE going to be WORLD CHANGERS!!! YEP, WORLD...THEY ARE going to be WORLD CHANGERS!!! YEP, WORLD CHANGERS!!!<br /><br />WORLD CHANGERS!!!<br /><br />That is my prayer...I have 5 of those babies, luckily they don't all have the same days that they try to STRUT their stuff.<br /><br />My prayer is that they will be WORLD CHANGERS! ;) <br /><br />Blessings to you,<br />lana @ ilovemy5kidsLanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07374718748752892678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-11714319265421231802009-11-21T08:33:30.487-06:002009-11-21T08:33:30.487-06:00I love this post! I find myself at times trying to...I love this post! I find myself at times trying to make Mac fit into the box you describe. I need to be better about letting his spirit just be!!!Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05077894635253188266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-19309416999658944492009-11-21T07:23:34.193-06:002009-11-21T07:23:34.193-06:00I'm blessed with a couple strong willed ones. ...I'm blessed with a couple strong willed ones. I learned when my daughter was quite small(she is now13) that I was trying to make her be what I wanted. God gently showed me He had big plans for her and He could handle it. I let go and let her grow into a beautiful (almost) woman of God. We don't know the future. God does. Her strong will has protected her from "strong" friends and to hold her ground on her beliefs! I'm sure glad God knows best, and that I got out of the way! Good job, and keep up the good work.<br />tiaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04432386198316284410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-87411835650631025262009-11-20T23:28:13.498-06:002009-11-20T23:28:13.498-06:00You said is so perfectly, I need to remember that ...You said is so perfectly, I need to remember that my four year old won't fit into a box-there just isn't a mold for her because she breaks them all. But I know she is strong for a reason-I pray often about it and her and my attitude. Thanks for the reminder that I'm not the only mom in this boat.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15231197848904182078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-31661524122742936142009-11-20T22:32:26.305-06:002009-11-20T22:32:26.305-06:00Our youngest child, and only girl, is completely o...Our youngest child, and only girl, is completely out of control. Her three big brothers have spoiled her rotten and we're all paying for it. My husband often comments that he will raise the boys and I can be in charge of Cate :) She doesn't hit her "terrible twos" for another three months, so I'm sure the best is yet to come.Debbie S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06830726924916567621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-48667877165290688622009-11-20T22:08:12.755-06:002009-11-20T22:08:12.755-06:00Today is my daughter's birthday and I re-poste...Today is my daughter's birthday and I re-posted something I wrote about her free spirited approach to life. <br /><br />I'm sure other parents sometimes (okay, more than sometimes) think I should reel her in and shush her, but I have to follow my instincts - which I discovered were right in line with the concepts in the book Grace Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel.Julie Stiles Millshttp://pragmaticcompendium.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-22935800600091853952009-11-20T20:52:58.351-06:002009-11-20T20:52:58.351-06:00Every time you write about your youngest, I think ...Every time you write about your youngest, I think of my daughter. She is 5, incredibly strongwilled, very smart, and very much her own person. I love her self confidence, her ability to make friends with almost anyone and her boundless energy.<br /><br />But, like you, I sometimes find it hard to embrace all of her spirited personality. I am sometimes embarrassed, and I swear that no matter where we go, everyone ends up knowing her name because I have to use it so often. <br /><br />In case you haven't found it yet, you might want to check out Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka -- it's helped save my sanity!!Tonyahttp://www.mommymusings.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-47648314358998454202009-11-20T18:44:47.681-06:002009-11-20T18:44:47.681-06:00My son is 14 and was strong willed in the womb. H...My son is 14 and was strong willed in the womb. He has taught me that the world won't end if he doesn't fit into the form the world deems acceptable. He is God's magnificent creation, perfectly formed to be who His Creator wants him to be.<br /><br />Although the time he wanted to wear a t-shirt with a giant baseball on it for Easter was almost the straw that broke the camel's back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-45053642096136444942009-11-20T18:31:01.481-06:002009-11-20T18:31:01.481-06:00For me it's my middle child who has the strong...For me it's my middle child who has the strongest will of the bunch, well, besides me. :)<br /><br />He was 2 and saying he hated God and had anger in his heart. There was a time when I couldn't take him shopping anymore b/c he knew he could scream and get away with it, at least until we got home. <br /><br />He's still the one with a million questions, but through much patience and discipline, he is becoming such a fine young almost 8 yr. old. I love that child with all my heart!!<br /><br />I do understand the struggle between wanting to break their will but not their spirit. Such a fine line and I know I made mistakes along the way. But... truly patience and consistent discipline have so paid off!!!!!<br /><br />Glad I am not alone in the strong-willed battle. :)<br /><br />Thanks for sharing and being so transparent.Brandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10312594053741362073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-15227034184998099642009-11-20T17:12:53.071-06:002009-11-20T17:12:53.071-06:00Bless you all! I feel so much better. My younges...Bless you all! I feel so much better. My youngest son (I have two boys) is the one that makes me want to pull my hair out. Thank God for the GRACE He gives me daily!bevyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18134225589131842747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-12422920931847787312009-11-20T16:57:01.463-06:002009-11-20T16:57:01.463-06:00My friend wrote a post that is my favorite thing e...My friend wrote a post that is my favorite thing ever about strong-willed children. <a href="http://ojandsuz.com/2009/wjdm-all-mischief-all-the-time/" rel="nofollow"> Read it here.</a> You probably already have tons of great insights for your newsletter, but I just had to share it in case it inspires you or anyone else.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07158631081390497739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-513032574951623502009-11-20T14:53:42.466-06:002009-11-20T14:53:42.466-06:00Ah, yes. This is my 3 yr old, Emily. Emily has s...Ah, yes. This is my 3 yr old, Emily. Emily has sensory problems, which makes your average task completely earth-shattering to her many times. She feels everything to the extreme - love, anger, frustration, happiness. As another mom said, at least you always know where she stands and how she feels. She is very trusting that I will always return when I have left her someplace (church, preschool, etc) and it is comforting to me as a mom to be able to do this and not have the added guilt of a crying, hysterical toddler at my feet while doing so.mcmcolospgshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03369000393842336827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-87289907143823731062009-11-20T14:46:58.166-06:002009-11-20T14:46:58.166-06:00Our middle child is rather strong-willed. My husb...Our middle child is rather strong-willed. My husband is better at guiding her than I am. Firm, patient discipline is more fruitful than what I often try. It is so easy to get frustrated since she is not a people pleaser like me and my other daughter are.Aiming4Simplehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11109113147823332056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-51043135643130098222009-11-20T13:42:15.523-06:002009-11-20T13:42:15.523-06:00Thank you for this. You brought tears to my eyes....Thank you for this. You brought tears to my eyes. I've been struggling lately with a strong willed child, and trying to find the patience I seemed to have in abundance when my older, quieter child was his age. I love that my son is the most loving little boy. He loves to hug and kiss his family, and is friendly to every child he meets. I just remind myself that as he gets older and life gets harder for him, he knows who he is and will stand his ground. I am raising two wonderful boys who I have no doubt will grow up to be wonderful husbands and fathers, no matter what they were like at 4.Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00972889935626685752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-59206668090824613122009-11-20T13:09:19.780-06:002009-11-20T13:09:19.780-06:00My 3y/o son...he's one of a kind, that's f...My 3y/o son...he's one of a kind, that's for sure! He's also our middle child and does not fit into any mold that has ever been made. <br /><br />However, on the rare occasion we are able to get through that rough, strong and determined exterior, we find that he has the most gentle heart. He's so sweet and loving and truly wonderful! It's glimpses like those that help us keep plugging away at taming the exterior a bit and finding ways for him to have the opportunity to express his heart. <br /><br />I'm sure there are lessons in this for me as well and I hope to be able to look back at these very tough times and see where God has held us and led us even when at the time it seemed as though we'd never get through to him.Bloggin' Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14988646865780111350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-60834706390421252842009-11-20T12:32:38.256-06:002009-11-20T12:32:38.256-06:00You described Princess2! What I especially enjoy ...You described Princess2! What I especially enjoy is her willingness to do new things without clinging. She has self confidence and trusts that I'll always be there for her so she's safe to go adventure.Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03929166891815132616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-53973594587885831622009-11-20T12:15:14.934-06:002009-11-20T12:15:14.934-06:00Considering I spent 10 minutes crying in the car a...Considering I spent 10 minutes crying in the car after I dropped my 4 year old daughter off at preschool today...I sooooo needed this post.<br /><br />For all of her stubbornness and outright refusal to do the simplest things, Emma FEELS so strongly. Happy or sad, there is never any doubt what she's experiencing. And everything is an experience.<br /><br />I have yet to find her currency, that one thing that will motivate her to stop being so defiant.<br /><br />But let me tell ya, NOONE is ever going to make my girl do anything she doesn't want to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com