tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post4296454867454197672..comments2023-11-28T04:49:21.046-06:00Comments on We Are THAT Family: When Blogging Turns UglyKristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02608199440254905212noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-37551934497694090382009-06-02T22:17:39.036-05:002009-06-02T22:17:39.036-05:00I've followed this conversation from its start...I've followed this conversation from its start in February, just after Blissdom. Here's my take:<br /><br />I don't like being tricked by embedded marketing any more than the next reader, but as a blogger, I'll defend your right to write however you want to. I do not like the idea of a small group of bloggers setting standards for anyone else who falls beneath them.<br /><br />Personally, I suspect many of these posts are written because they will attract controversy (and thereby traffic.)<br /><br />All women don't have to agree and get along, but I hate to see one group denigrate another, especially in such a public forum.Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08455517419708043340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-26277820570214317332009-06-02T13:49:32.141-05:002009-06-02T13:49:32.141-05:00I am so glad you said this!!
I've been thinking ...I am so glad you said this!! <br /><br />I've been thinking the same things lately. I actually have a blog post about it right now, that's still sitting in "draft" mode because I wasn't brave enough to hit publish.Beki - TheRustedChainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15963688700633522730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-52439964259923176662009-06-01T16:10:21.249-05:002009-06-01T16:10:21.249-05:00I started blogging because I was going through som...I started blogging because I was going through some tough stuff and I needed an outlet. I homeschooled for a year and half...then moved 1500 miles from my home for the first time. It's a way for our family to keep up with us and our 4 kids...an outlet for me, and honestly the only "social" time I get with being home with the kids.<br /><br />My blog is mostly about my family and my feelings...however, I'm not opposed to reviews and giveaways, although I wouldn't want it to be the focus. I'd love it if the Lord blessed me with a little income from it, but I'm not all about that. If people want to read, they can, if not then don't. Right? <br /><br />I can't seem to get with the whole "twitter" thing, so maybe I'll stay away from that and avoid it altogether, who knows? <br /><br />I enjoy your blog.Autumnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15823959551158947522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-24800837235241598862009-06-01T16:05:48.156-05:002009-06-01T16:05:48.156-05:00good post! i feel so much of what you are saying!good post! i feel so much of what you are saying!Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09433356451351257019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-57432736585794079622009-05-31T18:35:43.771-05:002009-05-31T18:35:43.771-05:00Well said! The spoken word can be erased, but can...Well said! The spoken word can be erased, but cannot be unread :(<br /><br />Good Luck on dodging the bad & the ugly :)Veggiemomof2https://www.blogger.com/profile/08499664148041543629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-89600092352082189852009-05-31T08:12:30.783-05:002009-05-31T08:12:30.783-05:00So diplomatic and well written. I tend to stay aw...So diplomatic and well written. I tend to stay away from the drama in the blogosphere as much as I do in real life. There will always be people who get/have more than you and I think that is the real issue. I welcome PR pitches, take what I like and turn down the rest. Like you pointed out, it is all what you want out of your blog and for me I just want to meet some new people and have some fun. Pretty much the story of my life I suppose! Have a great weekend.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02780852666558379943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-13520162771535244252009-05-31T06:01:10.322-05:002009-05-31T06:01:10.322-05:00your clearly not the outest of the loop beccause i...your clearly not the outest of the loop beccause i didnt know there was even such a thing as blog controversies. As for twitter, I just started with twitter and havent really felt a connection there yet... <br /><br />Why I blog? gosh I dont even know. Ive had giveaways but all things I own and that way I can do it the way I want. I would do a sponsored one if it was the way I wanted to do it... but I guess I blog because I have a big mouth :)<br /><br />tracyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11780696436600821062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-70346744925856414052009-05-31T03:57:54.928-05:002009-05-31T03:57:54.928-05:00Amen sister!
I try to avoid blog controversies, a...Amen sister!<br /><br />I try to avoid blog controversies, and obviously I don't follow the "right/wrong" people in Twitter, because I did not notice it there either.<br /><br />It is so easy to get sucked into it, but we need to decide what we want our blogs to say about us and our values. Although I am certainly more confident on my blog, I hope that I keep it real enough that if I met a bloggy reader in real life they would be able to recognize me!<br /><br />If others chose to do things differently I don't really mind, but I will stay out of the drama - life has enough drama without seeking it out!<br /><br />Great post, and I have loved reading the comments too.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06833388514253606318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-13569959066790248852009-05-31T01:07:26.301-05:002009-05-31T01:07:26.301-05:00Amen.Amen.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15723750357398720115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-19247116324933902372009-05-31T00:49:50.264-05:002009-05-31T00:49:50.264-05:00Wow, I haven't seen any mean blogging yet. I thin...Wow, I haven't seen any mean blogging yet. I think that would really upset me.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01335822447056360488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-88270111057245651652009-05-30T22:38:17.986-05:002009-05-30T22:38:17.986-05:00Well said!!!Well said!!!Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662751045378148853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-66181198215457497292009-05-30T22:08:25.867-05:002009-05-30T22:08:25.867-05:00Amen to that! I'm new to blogging, I also twitter,...Amen to that! I'm new to blogging, I also twitter, but haven't seen any of the negative talk. I guess maybe I'm not on that much. I haven't been lucky enough to be offered a product review or giveaway yet. But, when I do, I will write what I think, not just because they gave me something.<br />Thanks for the great post!<br />~LizHoosier Homemadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16325407499889277455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-21568170123792207172009-05-30T21:01:26.793-05:002009-05-30T21:01:26.793-05:00I must have missed out on the twitter nastiness......I must have missed out on the twitter nastiness.... oh well. I wrote a similar post on my blog this week regarding paid posts and pr pitches. I totally agree with you, if that is what you blog about, go for it! Just be honest with your readers. Don't deceive people by weaving in product plugs with stories about your children that you were paid to write. I think readers are pretty smart and they can tell when all a blogger does is pitch. If they don't mind they will keep reading, if not there are a million blogs out there to read. My advice is to just be yourself! <br />ToniThe Happy Housewifehttp://thehappyhousewife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-87674278079911836072009-05-30T20:51:37.267-05:002009-05-30T20:51:37.267-05:00Our local newspaper has a chat forum where they al...Our local newspaper has a chat forum where they all pick someone to death or argue and be ugly so I quit checking it out. I had to laugh at the oh so righteous ones because a guy they had all been chatting with was arrested AGAIN because he is a sex offender. I knew it and they did too but now they are denying it since the article came out in the paper. they are such phoneysgrannyannhttp://www.anntuckerblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-31345627440908886172009-05-30T20:41:09.458-05:002009-05-30T20:41:09.458-05:00I blog for my grandma :). Seriously... even is she...I blog for my grandma :). Seriously... even is she's the only person ever to read my blog, I want her to enjoy it. I want her to know what's going on in my life with my family, since we don't live close. I just try to be honest. <br /><br />(and she probably IS the only person to read my blog, and that's okay)<br /><br />Last week, I won a blog giveaway for a free blog makeover. It sounded great at first, but after a day or two, I felt all kinds of pressure. If I was going to have a fancy, new design, then I should start writing more, marketing myself more, etc... All of a sudden it became less about me and my kids and more about making things attractive to others. So I declined the prize (I entered the contest with the hope that I'd win some jewelry or a book). I just like to write. And that's all I want my blog to be... me writing.Kristy Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05816266165596643837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-69716304440684360992009-05-30T20:36:31.969-05:002009-05-30T20:36:31.969-05:00Wow, I don't do Twitter, and I'm pretty new to the...Wow, I don't do Twitter, and I'm pretty new to the blogging world, but I didn't realize that these things were happening. I started blogging for several reasons. I enjoy meeting new people and sharing wisdom and ideas. I have 7 children and I homeschool, and blogging makes me feel like I am reaching out in a way I normally don't have the time to do. I also wanted to have a place to write, as I never find time to do that. I also wanted to have a place where family and friends could come to see what was happening in our homeschool, or our family. So far, I have really enjoyed it, even if almost noone reads my blog. It is for me, and for others if they happen to find me and feel blessed by what I have to say. We are all a work in progress, but Christ wants us to bear each others burdens and build one another up. So, that is my goal, along with just journaling the life of my wonderful family! Thank you for being real, and sharing your thoughts with us!Elizabethhttp://busymama7.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-40345204169384781312009-05-30T19:58:31.080-05:002009-05-30T19:58:31.080-05:00All of the recent negativity and drama has really ...All of the recent negativity and drama has really made my heart heavy. <br /><br />I blog because it's a way to connect with people - whether they're just like me or not. It's certainly not my place to judge what any other blogger does or doesn't do. <br /><br />I don't understand why others feel the need.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04161003014881823829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-73827575106174070772009-05-30T19:49:42.470-05:002009-05-30T19:49:42.470-05:00I blog to help people.
I've posted on forums f...I blog to help people. <br /><br />I've posted on forums for years... to help people. That is my mission in life; helping others save money.<br /><br />I am on the fence about reviewing for cash and prizes (and trips and cars and...) It is not my place to judge how someone runs their blog. Heck if the only way to afford a vacation for your family is to write a sponsored review, go for it! Who am I (or anyone else for that matter) to say what is right or wrong. My personal opinion is as long as the blogger is upfront about the review being made on behalf of an in-kind promotion, it is all good.<br /><br />As someone who has been an avid internet deal poster for the last 10 years, I can tell you the catty, cliquey behavior is not restricted to blogging. Try a deal forum with 500,000 members on for size if you want catty.Ann @couponsdealsandmore.comhttp://couponsdealsandmore.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-14161696741049575862009-05-30T19:41:14.319-05:002009-05-30T19:41:14.319-05:00I've managed to avoid the drama so far, and I plan...I've managed to avoid the drama so far, and I plan to steer as clear of it as possible. Seriously, girl drama is the worst, no matter how young or old the girl.<br /><br />I blog for a few reasons:<br />1. I love to write.<br />2. I am inconsistent with paper journaling, but keep a great journal of my family's life on my blog.<br />3. Three years ago I moved 2400 miles from the place where I lived the first 26 years of my life. My blog keeps my life within reach of the friends and family back "home."<br />4. I hope to give other moms some reading material that makes them laugh, or think, or encourages them.<br />5. It's a creative outlet where I can be Emily...Emily sometimes gets lost in a world where my first name is usually Mommy. =)Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06459566936750786139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-34673624817289533532009-05-30T19:37:35.614-05:002009-05-30T19:37:35.614-05:00Bridget I can't imagine why in the world anyone wo...Bridget I can't imagine why in the world anyone would want to leave a bad comment on your blog. That's just not right.Dorcihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09814426436131129760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-63984800949258438902009-05-30T18:49:32.121-05:002009-05-30T18:49:32.121-05:00I really wasn't aware to the "playground" nastines...I really wasn't aware to the "playground" nastiness going on, although I did get my first "not-so-nice" comment last week. Oh Joy! <br /><br />I started a blog with my sister to keep up with family, and then started Bake at 350 to share recipes and ideas, and, well, to eat more than I should. :) <br /><br />I, too, am open to promoting/reviewing products and companies I like and that "fit" with my blog. I love when I see that "just us moms" can actually reach out to companies and have them reach out to us. It's cool! Hellooooo....Hershey's Spa....I'm ready, willing for a visit! :)bridget {bake at 350}https://www.blogger.com/profile/03028474637440238003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-6698510103920978852009-05-30T17:40:40.452-05:002009-05-30T17:40:40.452-05:00Well said! Blogging has taken the place of my pap...Well said! Blogging has taken the place of my paper scrapbooking. I love blogging and have become such an addict. I love documenting our everyday life. Maybe be boring to some, but I love capturing and writing about our crazy lives. I also loved that I have stumbled onto your blog. It is a great inspiration.C.Thompsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17608211180007318380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-50521043505894320602009-05-30T17:20:29.205-05:002009-05-30T17:20:29.205-05:00Yikes. I can't imagine bad mouthing any other blo...Yikes. I can't imagine bad mouthing any other bloggers on my blog. Just ain't nice. <br /><br />Why do I blog? I blog as a journal for our daughter and for adoption advocacy. Adoption is a super thing and we'd like to help others if we can.<br /><br />Thanks for blogging about this icky subject. We all need to be on our best behavior, you know!<br /><br />Have a nice weekend!Bailey's Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-4577765904796565912009-05-30T17:09:50.450-05:002009-05-30T17:09:50.450-05:00People who carp at people are very low in self-est...People who carp at people are very low in self-esteem. If you don't like something...move on...it's cyberspace. You should see how I look when I'm at my laptop...uhm, no, you don't want to look☺<br /><br />Anyway, if I hadn't found your blog a while back I wouldn't know about the adorable door for your pantry that you shared with us. It's sweet and will be in my home either this summer or fall.<br /><br />Keep up the good work and just walk on by all the negative poopie.<br /><br />I read it and find it, too, and wonder how in the world someone can be critical of someone they've never met...sigh.♥Mimi♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/02962332639467877386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8095068418828488278.post-65916278684880148102009-05-30T17:06:58.117-05:002009-05-30T17:06:58.117-05:00I am pretty sure I started blogging because it was...I am pretty sure I started blogging because it was a way to express myself... in photos and words.<br /><br />My family that is not close by might even take a gander and get to know me a little bit better.<br /><br />Most of my kids don't care to read my blog now... but one day when I am gone... maybe it will give them some insight into me.<br /><br />I have never considered using my blog to get paid to give product reviews or advertise... that doesn't mean I may not try if I choose to.<br /><br />But I do talk about favorite foods and places to eat out or ones I enjoy visiting.<br /><br />I mainly enjoy the reality of blogging... I have never been into pretention... or being fake. I like to see posts where everything is not in its place and the laundry is on the sofa... cause that is real.<br /><br />I also have found friendship and support from my bloggy buddies and blog family in the blog world.<br /><br />I guess the 'catty woman' sydrome can happen anywhere... the real world or the blogosphere.<br /><br />This post really made me think. I am probably not done thinking about it... but I better stop writing about it.<br /><br />ToOdLeS.ShEiLahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12439819553846591903noreply@blogger.com